Couples need time out from the full time job of parenting which constantly goes into overtime. we easily become engrossed in the day to day activities of keeping the family. Daily chores around the house which seem never to be completed. Spending a whole day at work trying to provide for the family, making sure bills are paid. Add to that kids looking for attention At the end of each day both husband and wife are spent, mentally, physically and emotionally.

Repeat this routine daily and you can easily see the picture of a routine that can kill the spark in a marriage. A dangerous state of affairs whereby if there is no proactive intervention, couples can drift apart and ‘fall out of love’. Taking each other for granted. This mundane routine of familiarity can  breed contempt for ones spouse leading to a partner looking elsewhere for excitement.

Its up to the couple to intervene and since it was the man who approached the woman more often than not I put the burden to keep the romantic flame burning solely at his feet. This is no easy task but after all the work and chores a couple needs to make time for themselves, to keep their flame burning.

Romantic gesture and dates will differ from couple to couple for example my wife and I generally don’t  subscribe to the movie romances and we both can’t stand Romcoms. Flowers are out of the question too. We are also not into restaurants. In some peoples books we are the perfect boring couple!

As parents dating has taken on a different face. Its not about going out. Its about having quiet time together where we just talk. It doesn’t even have to be intelligent talk, it could be just banter. But whats important to us is having this time where we can just forget about the pressures of raising a family. We make this time regularly, sometimes we also us this time to confront uncomfortable issues which maybe affecting our relationship. This is something we started while we were dating so we just carried it through.

When your dates involve our kids we normally go to a place where the kids will enjoy and we have our quiet time. If you are not taking time out with your  its not too late to spark the light and rejuvenate that love!

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Day 27
Dating while parenting

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